Are you a living leader?

According to ABS research around a quarter of all employed people go to work feeling unappreciated and considering leaving their employer. Why? Because they feel unappreciated or no longer valued and like they aren’t making a difference. Sobering facts huh. Even more concerning is the fact that depression occurs in 20% of all people over the course of a lifetime.  

Did you go to college or university and learn a profession or a trade? Studied hard, learnt the skills, took the tests and completed the assignments? Did anyone prepare you though for how to deal with overwhelm, how to set goals, how to cope through the rough patches and how to deal with the issues of depression and pressure of modern life? Perhaps, but probably my guess would be probably not.

The trap many people fall into is looking too critically at what they are rather than who they are being and who they are becoming.

What do you answer when you are asked the question “what do you do?” Do you say you are an engineer, a marketer, a physiotherapist, a teacher, an entrepreneur, a writer?

What would you answer if you were asked instead, “who are you being?”

Think about it. Would you say “I don’t know”? Would you say “myself”? Or would you answer without needing to think: a conduit, an enabler, a learner, a millionaire in the making, a storyteller, a delight, a friend, a creative spirit, an experience, a life adventurer, a protagonist, a free spirit, a vessel of information or perhaps a living leader?

If you are anything like many of my clients when they first come to me, you are probably fast approaching meltdown, overwhelmed with the pressures of the job or your business, drowning in the day to day demands of society, of family, of friends, life and commitments in general. You answer may well be “a mess”.

As the Living Leaders Advocate and a coach, my purpose is to be the holder of a space that enables things to come forth out of my clients – things that are far greater than me. My job is to help my client step outside of their overwhelm and step into the possibility of what they truly desire to become. To shine a light internally on their inner being and to investigate what they want to step into.

Like the conductor of an orchestra, as a coach I need not make a sound to help my clients make beautiful music. Like the conductor, my role is not about my ego. It is my job to bring out the best in my clients – a role I relish.

With encouragement my clients become possibility thinkers. With courage they articulate what being a living leader looks like for them. With persistence they plan and take action steps to grow into that vision.

“What’s a living leader?” I hear you ask?

My definition of a living leader is someone who serves a greater purpose than themselves. A living leader doesn’t wait until they are on their death bed to pass on their wisdom. Living leaders have a desire to continually learn and grow, to drink deeply from life and to serve others. The presence of living leaders inspires others to become freer, healthier, wealthier, wiser, more creative and courageous and inspired to pass on their enlightenment to others as well.  Living leaders light their own spark and ignite the spark in others.

Living leaders:

·         Practice gratitude, compassion and positive thinking

·         Invest in social connections

·         Focus on resilience

·         Live in the present

·         Commit to their goals

·         Take good care of themself – spiritually, mentally and physically

·         Identify and maximise their character strengths

·         Focus on being authentically  themselves

·         Practice optimism, compassion and empathy.

As a person growing into becoming a Living Leaders I work harder on myself than I do on my job – I am constantly reinventing myself, continually attending courses and seminars, reading a book a week, working with my coach mentor and  travelling to meet with my mastermind to learn new information, make more connections and discover new ways of being.

What are you doing to grow your knowledge and improve yourself?

What do you do to light the sparkle in your own eyes?

And if not ask yourself “Who am I being that my eyes aren’t sparkling?”

Living leaders enable other people: be the space instead of the hero. Create the conditions instead of controlling the outcome. Once you let go of controlling the outcome you will be amazed by the power and the passion that you ignite in people.

Live with passion

Love Heidi Alexandra Pollard - The Living Leaders Advocate

Stand in your power

“Often the difference between a successful man and a failure is not one’s better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on his ideas, to take a calculated risk - and to act.” Maxwell Maltz

Do you allow your fear to paralyse you and hold you back from achieving all that you desire? Or do you acknowledge and accept your fear and then carry on with it and through it regardless?

One of the biggest mistakes people make is to allow fear to get in the way of their success. Analysis paralysis is the killer of innovation! Just because you are experiencing fear, doesn’t mean that you can’t do something… it just means that doing it is going to feel uncomfortable - so expect to feel that way. 

Take the time to pay attention to all the things that you think you can’t do, be or have. Identify the fear that you are empowering with this assumption and then carry on with and through it regardless.

Ask yourself what’s the worst thing that could happen? And what if in pushing through the fear you achieved what you truly desired? What are you waiting for?

Yours in prosperity, passion and purpose
Heidi Alexandra Pollard

Are Your Fears and Fairytales Holding You Back?

The power of communication is what the listener does with the message, not what the message does to the listener. Messages, stories, speeches, movies and advertisements that move people deeply do not do so because they are powerful in themselves. They do so because they touch the audience’s most desired wants, most cherished values or even the things they dislike most. They evoke responses that are already in the listener, they don’t put them there.

The same can be said about your inner dialogue. What are you doing with the messages and stories you tell yourself? Begin to collect information on your own thoughts, observe your behaviour, responses, doubts and fears. Listen to the fairytales and beliefs you have created for your own life: “I can’t sing”; “I’m too old”; “I’ll never be rich”; “I don’t deserve that”; “I’m not smart enough to do that.”

What is your inner voice telling you and how often? How frequently do you allow those negative beliefs and tales show up? How much emotion is behind them? How do they compare to the frequency and strength of your positive affirmations?

The greatest obstacle to your success is probably you. Too often I find coaching clients hold themselves back due to their personal fears and fairytales.

One such handbrake to success is the fear of failure, probably the single greatest barrier to success in adult life. Taken to its extreme, people are totally pre-occupied with not making a mistake, with seeking approval for security. How do you know when you are coming from a position of fear? When you hear yourself saying the words “I can’t”.

Another major fear that can interfere with performance and inhibit expression, creativity and success, is the fear of rejection. Unfortunately it creates a need in us to do what pleases others because we constantly crave approval.

Be honest with yourself - how have you feeling about yourself lately? About your career or business? About your health, relationships and wellbeing? Who’s approval are you seeking? Who’s permission are you waiting for to make a change now? Are you taking chances to grow… or have you been playing it safe?

I ask because it’s where I have been and I know exactly what it feels like to be trying to move ahead with one foot nailed to the floor. It can creep up on you - starting out small and gradually building, that need for certainty, for risk aversion, the fear of making any bold moves.

For many people, this way of being serves them well most of the time, and the very fact that they are surviving makes them want to do it more. But for those of you, like me, who have a burning passion inside you, a desire to do something grander, to fulfil your entrepreneurial drive, to become someone worth becoming, to leave a legacy…this mode will slowly kill your spirit, your career or business - and your soul.

Dreams that you once had get pushed aside. Bold ideas get filed away into the “someday when the time is right” folder. Your spark of creativity gets muffled as the busyness of life, of caring for others and going through the motions take over. Worse still, your generosity of spirit shrinks as you retreat and wait for things to get better.

So what can you do to stop the downward spiral?

Here’s five actions to help you get your passion back on track…

1.     Feel the fear and do it anyway - if you wait for all the fears to leave you’ll be waiting forever. I know the more risks I take, the more confident I become.

2.     Rediscover the passion you had.- get back to that feeling of having nothing but possibilities in front of you. Build the courage to step out in your highest good and to show up every day in a big way.

3.     Move without all the answers - analysis paralysis is a killer (this was my biggest vice), you may always wonder how you are going to find the time, knowledge, money or support to do what you want to do, but without forward motion you will never find the answers.

4.     Chunk it down - this simple but powerful concept is one that has worked from me since my early 20’s. Take just one step, once a week, towards one of your goals and you will be amazed at what you can achieve in one year. Breaking your goals into week-sized chunks will make it feel much more doable and will help you create the momentum that leads to amazing long term progress and success.

5.     Get an accountability buddy - tell someone you trust about the goal you’re committed to (I tell my coach Therese). It may be scary to talk about it, but the spoken word in itself creates energy and accountability.

Don’t settle for a second rate you - decide today that you deserve better.